Processing the personal self.
The Path to Mastery may at certain times seem like an impossible journey. Especially after one just got triggered emotionally by something very inconsequential. Reflecting on that moment when one loses one’s centered balanced calm can be slightly uncomfortable as one feel like one is making no progress towards mastery.
It can feel like one just cannot seem to masterful at all times no matter what.
The feeling like one has failed a test and one need to start right at the beginning again. A long climb back up to the top of the mastery mountain so to speak.
However, once one is again centered and balanced then one has the opportunity to process what one just went through. It can be so surprising in some ways to realize that once again one’s core wounding was triggered by something very small and insignificant.
It can be like stepping on a pebble whilst nearing the summit of Everest only to find oneself back at base camp.
This is why it is crucial to process one’s core wounds and bring forgiveness and love to one’s wounded self.
Processing is applying various processes or tools to Discovering, Investigating and healing of one’s Human conditioning or personality programming.
Everyone has their own ways of processing and healing but one of the most profound ways is using the Enneagram. It is one of those processing tools that has been seen to be believed. One cannot understand that how does a simple questionnaire taking 35 minutes to complete, bring such tremendous insight into one’s personality programming. It is not about profiling the personality as such for employee selection for example, but rather to understanding the obstacles that one has placed in the way of perceiving one’s mastery.
Off course insight into one’s patterns does not mean much unless one knows what to do with it.
Thus, what is the easiest and simplest processes to use in processing of one’s self? The following process is a very simple and effective process to follow at any time.
Write up the story of what occurred or run through it in one’s mind?
Look for key moments of Anger, frustration. Where did one feel that one was being treated unjustly?
Recall the exact language one was using?
Use the discovering of events under What above now to probe deeper.
What is one’s fear that is arising here? What is one’s core pattern that is being triggered?
Look for any guilt? What really made one angry after all?
What is one defending? What thought keep coming up for one.
Using the intelligence (intel) gathered under So What, chart a way forward as follows:
Completely own everything that occurred. If one cannot then one can bring one’s own forgiveness to the part of oneself that feels like a victim.
Bring compassion to oneself for this experience and regard this as powerful step forward in self-awareness.
Look for the single thought that runs this program. Instill a new thought into one’s awareness and practice this thought as often as one can. Establish in one’s mind why this new thought is truer than the old thought.
Ask for another opportunity to practice this new awareness.
The Enneagram is tailor made for this process as it provides incredible insights into the first two questions and provides a pathways for what to do with this.